I used to go to a place called Fairwinds for the Parkinsons meetings. It was a gorgeous place with many amenities. I was shown one the apartments by a resident who belonged to our group, just lovely. Like any apartment anywhere. Full kitchen, but for those who don't want to cook there is a beautiful dining room, chandeliers, linen tablecloths and floral centerpieces. Everytime I went, someone was playing the piano and people gathered in a series of areas and separate rooms to play cards, mah jongg, do puzzles, etc., or just sit on comfortable couches and chairs to relax. Light, airy and very spacious. There was a gym, but I'm not sure if there was a pool. There was a van that took people shopping or to doctors' appointments, wherever they needed to go. And someone on duty at the front desk all night. Neil Diamond's mother was a resident at that time.
I also visited a senior development in Bartlesville, Oklahoma very similar to places here. I thought it was lovely. You could choose the level of care. I've heard of places that my friends' family members live in down in San Diego that are like that. You can move to different levels depending on your needs at the time.
I took out a long term care policy many years ago, the premiums went up so much over the years that I had to cut back on my once top of the line coverage, but I still have 10 years worth. I can have someone come in to my house, or move to assisted living or nursing home as I need.