Sometimes people's decisions suck and frankly I would be as put out as you are especially when those not included have been members for so many years. Who knows what the reason actually might be..I find the thinking of some people today is so often off the wall and extreme to me that I can't believe we were once as close as we were.

As far as joining the Zoom meetings, if you get something out of them I would continue.. but as far as thinking of these ladies as more than people who share some of your interests would be a mistake. Have you asked the hostess why you and the other three women were excluded?