Re: I saw this on FB -Elle
I wrote the last message before I saw your response. Now I see what you mean. I believe my first husband loved me in whatever way he could love, but I don't think he was able to love in the way I wanted. He was an entertainer, very outgoing and extremely social, everyone loved him for his Trump-like manner and personality, but I wanted a deeper connection. He always worked and got ahead, was generous with gifts, but he had a hair-trigger temper. Although I had an important place in the marriage, I think his was more important, and that he was down deep narcissistic. He always knew better, did things better, etc. My judgment was disregarded, until many years into the marriage when he realized and admitted he should have listened to me more. But by then it was too late. When we separated, I felt like the genie who escaped from the bottle yelling "Free, free at last!" People said I had more guts than brains for wanting to leave the marriage, I had four young children and no job. It was living on a precipice for a while, but I made it, and was never sorry.
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