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Dorian

Posted by Diane on 12/13/2024, 1:40 pm

Autopsy. It seems the doctor won’t call me back with the results. I’m really getting angry. I’m still mad at myself for not giving it a few more days . I’m also mad at the vet I got. I she looked like she was straight out of school.

Re: Dorian

Posted by Seesthru, TC advisor on 12/13/2024, 6:49 pm, in reply to "Dorian"

I"m so sorry. How long has it been?

Re: Dorian

Posted by Diane on 12/13/2024, 8:23 pm, in reply to "Re: Dorian"

It happened at the end of October. I just feel awful. One thing that is happening to me as I age, I'm just not thinking as fast as I used to. I used to have better instincts now my instincts are just horrible. I kept thinking about 21,000. I think it probably would have been around 6,000 to 7,000. Whether or not Dorian would have lived I don't know. But I would have charged 7,000. Whether she said 21,000 or I heard her wrong I don't know. I miss Dorian so much. I hate this apartment and I want to move but the rents are still outrageous and a lot of apartments now don't allow pets.

Re: Dorian

Posted by Diane on 12/13/2024, 8:30 pm, in reply to "Re: Dorian"

I feel like I'm grasping at straws. I want the ultopsy to say it was cancer or heart problems but it probably won't. I probably won't even get an answer anyway. With Willo and Casper I know I tried the best I could and there was nothing else I could have done but with Dorian I should have tried harder. I really just couldn't get any information from the vet. Plus I was just exhausted.

Re: Dorian

Posted by Seesthru, TC advisor on 12/14/2024, 10:49 am, in reply to "Re: Dorian"

Diane,

Whatever they had planned for Dorian, he likely would not have survived. Dorian was sick. Birds don't do well with anesthesia, or invasive treatments, especially smaller birds. He likely wouldn't have survived treatment.

Please don't be hard on yourself. I know you miss Dorian so very much, but honestly, I think you did the right thing. It doesn't feel like it, I know. Your grief over his loss is immense., and it's trying to make you feel like you did all the wrong things. But you didn't. What you did, you did from love and not wanting your little one to suffer. In my heart of hearts, I feel that He wouldn't have survived the treatment.

Re: Dorian

Posted by Diane on 12/14/2024, 7:51 pm, in reply to "Re: Dorian"

Thanks so much. For some reason yesterday and today are extremely hard. I do miss Dorian and I know Max does to.

Re: Dorian

Posted by Cecilia on 12/14/2024, 11:42 am, in reply to "Re: Dorian"

Diane, you did the best you could. I second guess myself also when I lost my tiel Lily to egg-binding.She did not survive the surgery.I don't think there was anything else you could have done at that time.

Re: Dorian

Posted by Diane on 12/14/2024, 7:53 pm, in reply to "Re: Dorian"

Thanks Cecilia. I really wanted Dorian to live a long life. I didn't think I'd lose him so soon.

Re: Dorian

Posted by Cecilia on 12/15/2024, 5:53 am, in reply to "Re: Dorian"

Oh, I know. Lily was only 12. She was my baby. I would have done anything for her just as you would have with Dorian. We make the best decisions we can during those times.

Re: Dorian

Posted by Cathy on 12/16/2024, 2:53 pm, in reply to "Re: Dorian"

I did the same second-guessing with Shiloh. It's difficult not to in these situations. But it doesn't sound as if Dorian had the strength at the end to undergo a lot of handling. I will tell you what my vet told me about tiels and their hearts when Shiloh got sick in 2022. He said that they are prone to artherosclerosis, just like humans, and Shiloh at 14 1/2 years old had roughly the circulatory system of a 75-year-old person.

Do you know which lab your vet used?

Cathy

Re: Dorian

Posted by Diane on 12/16/2024, 8:23 pm, in reply to "Re: Dorian"

I think they have their own. I don't know what school they sent it to. That's why it's taking so long. They donated it to a school.

Re: Dorian

Posted by Cathy on 12/17/2024, 3:17 pm, in reply to "Re: Dorian"

I did a quick search on vet schools in NY. It could likely be Cornell University or Long Island University. I hope that you find out something soon.

Cathy

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