I needed to read this and the many insightful replies. I find myself trapped because my skillset and passion revolves around HS band and marching band specifically, which makes the job a good fit, but I work so hard and for so long that I have nothing left to give when I go home. I struggle to find energy for hobbies, and I entered the profession in a relationship but broke up soon after, and have struggled to maintain any long term relationship since then (though I'm sure there are other issues, work hasn't made this easy for me). I am resentful of my colleagues who were married prior to taking the job or met their spouse ON the job, and sometimes use their kids as an excuse to not be available for extra stuff, leaving the single dude in charge. Then you have middle school directors talking behind your back about how the HS guys never come down to the middle school, when most days you're teaching 5.5 hrs during the day then have to plan for marching rehearsal after school during your only off-period...

Sorry for the rant. Just needed to vent and say I relate to the OP