It is a very tough road that you are on and I think it takes quite some time to adjust to our new bodies and new normal (whatever that is). I would suggest to you to own your emotions and know that it is OK to feel them. I would suggest to you to seek counseling, trust me it helps a lot. Short term antidepressants can be also very good in helping you through this. One of the women on this web site suggested to go to Goodwill buy some dishes and throw them against a wall. It doesn't solve anything but it might help.
People say the most amazing things, thinking that it helps. If they could only really hear what they are saying.
I think it is important to remind yourself that what you are going through is normal. I bet anything that everyone on this site has dealt with the issue of anger and depression.
Going to a support group might help and letting you husband love you might help.
Come here as often as you need and vent as much as you want.
Please come back here and let me know how you are doing.
Hang in there dear. We are all here to help.