Hi Sheila- So sorry to hear this has happened to you. I had a free TRAM with LOTS of complications (skin necrosis, pressure sore, chronic wounds that took over 3 months to heal) last April but actually had revision surgery down in New Orleans that fixed everything up. It is good to talk to others in the same boat. I can also recommend breastcancer.org discussion boards for this too - lots of lively discussions going on in the breast reconstruction forum.
Best wishes