Mark is paying the utilities at mom's house and I hope he can buy it but for now, he's just paying utilities. We need to get the house appraised. They tell me I won't have to actually sell the house until she passes so that's good. Medicaid calls it "debt recovery" If I do sell it I just have to hold the money for them once she passes. Mark can stay there for now and save up a down payment when the time does happen. Things are getting a little better emotionally for me. I'm adjusting. It will be nice when mom's social security and pensions are finally sent to the nursing home and I won't have to keep writing checks for her stay.
I do have to make an appointment with our lawyer again to handle her two credit card bills she still owes on . The nursing home said to write a letter to them saying she can't pay due to being in a nursing home and that they should considerate a bad debt. I am not on her credit cards so they can't come back on me for anything. The finance director at the nursing home said it would just "ruin her credit " At 87 that's the least on my worries. The lawyer will advise me on anything else. So, I will have to do that and then once all her money goes to the nursing home I won't have to worry about anything . It's been a learning process for me. Thank God I have Tom to help keep me sane. I don't think I would have survived otherwise.
It's nice to just go visit mom and talk with her. She has had two bad sugar drops where she sweats profusely and they have to give her sweets to bring her sugar back up. I have been telling her that if she had been home and that would have happened she could have gone into insulin shock and may have died. I am using that as an excuse to her that she's better off at the home where they can watch her She never checked her own sugar level when she was at home . I rest a lot better knowing they are taking care of her.
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