Sorry mate but red is bang on. If you look at each and everyone’s personal circumstances you’ll get nowhere. Nothing in life takes that in to account. We all have issues/problems and have to accept that whilst nothing is perfect, we have to start somewhere.
I’m saying that as someone who will miss out as I now live in Suffolk. Went home and away all over the country in the 90s but now I can’t and so I’ll miss out at times. That’s life.