I don't expect her to change but I keep allowing her toxicity into my life by not cutting off the relationship completely, which is what I should have done many years ago when she abandoned 9-year-old Mike and me in the middle of Mexico. And then lied to my mother that we had left them by choice. Say, What??? There followed years of bad behavior towards everyone in her life that is so unsavory and anti-social that I will not put it in print, and besides there is so much it would take up too much space. She is lucky her daughter has forgiven her, and that is only because she needs her daughter in her old age, and is treating her decently for once.