As for showing up on Christmas day with gifts and money....
Honestly I never heard of anything like this. I know some of my friends, including myself, would get Christmas cards for a few years from old BFs but as time passed and they married, that ended. And as for myself I had little interest in keeping in touch with past BFs. I did enjoy getting together with a few from the past I located with the help of the internet including 2 platonic male friends... one brought his wife along making it a foursome for dinner in Manhattan. Two had been widowed. But I had no interest in continual contact.
The only one I kept in contact with after Don found him was Robert, my first real love as a young teenager. He was divorced and sick with diabetes. He eventually lost one leg. I know Elle will say love at that age isn't possible but my younger SD was smitten with her husband when she was 13, in love with him at 14, started dating him at 15 and married him when both finished college. They're still married and have a young son.
Every year Robert and I exchanged cards in Dec because he too was born in Dec. Then one birthday no card. Then no xmas card either. His mother had already passed away so there was no one to call and his number had been disconnected. The last time I saw him RR and I picked him up to have dinner in Sarasota at a nice Italian restaurant. He looked awful but sounded OK. No complaints about his health. I sensed something was not good. I knew from his mother that he was not taking care of himself. He would not stick to the diet etc. I believe he passed away one day in that small cramped apt there in Bradenton. Toward the end he was becoming a hermit, only going out to the grocery store a short distance away in his wheelchair. He had no life. When his mother was alive and living across the courtyard from him he had something to live for as he was concerned about her. Then she died at 92 and he had no one.
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