Sharing a rent-controlled apt must have helped her quite a bit financially.

Their rent had gone up around the same time both were laid off in 08 or 09. I had no idea what was going on with them because they never shared personal info. But this last time they came down for a visit they talked more about their financial and job situations. It was plain to all of us they could no longer afford to live in NYC. Not if they hoped to avoid working until the day they dropped dead and never having much more than they had in that 3 room apt. The COL was raising faster than their salaries increased. It was time for them to move somewhere else. Her family is from Maine. Her family offered them no help of any kind. We did. That and the fact I'm needing help now to get around made them decide this was the better choice for everyone. When RR and I die they'll inherit this place free and clear. Also whatever is left of my personal inheritance. My IRA paid for this property.

I don't foresee this daughters doing anything to help us as we age as one lives in the UK and other lives in TN. We don't hear much from the one in TN. She's very much into her own life. I never could get close to her or her now grown kids.

The money we accrued together since we married in '89 will probably be split 3 ways when we die.