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Re: Peaceful Retirement in the Sunbelt -
Edited by Ellie on 4/27/2019, 5:29 pm
I've told my kids that I'd like what we did for their father. Although I knew my husband's days were numbered, I hadn't made any arrangements but had started making inquiries at least to the extent of funeral homes. I have to say that, for me at least, his funeral was a celebration of his life and not morbid at all. He passed away early in Thanksgiving week and we had a service the Wednesday night before Thanksgiving. He was cremated and it took a little pressure from the funeral home to have it done so quickly. I had asked that no cut flowers be sent but if so inclined, only live plants and that's what we got. I had blankets of traditional Fall flowers made from the girls and myself. He was a big Sinatra fan and the girls and I spent the intervening time putting together a slideshow of his pictures over the years, making sure that where possible they included him with those most likely to attend, and accompanied it with some of his favorite tunes. We did most of our crying at that time as the pictures brought memories. The "viewing" was secular. At its conclusion, the live plants received were offered to the attendees. Thanksgiving morning, my daughters and I broke the blanket of cut Fall flowers into bouquets and delivered them to our neighbors. It was an unorthodox closing but I think he would have loved it. Friends of my daughters gifted us with a completely catered Thanksgiving dinner. Thanksgiving, of course, will always be a time of remembrance and some sadness for us.