When my father-in-law hit his 70's, we asked him to take care of his funeral arrangements himself, we would not have the means to cover them. He was living in another State at the time. He did as we asked and made arrangements with a local funeral parlor near his home. Time passed and in his eighties, a little bit of dementia had set in and we realized that he no longer could be living on his own and we brought him home to live with us. He was with us over a year when his health faded and he passed. When I saw the arrangements he had made, I knew the funeral director must have seen him coming, they were so over-the-top for what I thought was needed. He wanted to be buried next to his wife which was nearby where he was living, in the other State. The casket top of the line. He was a very nice old gentleman and had made a lot of friends in the time he spent with us that would have wanted to to have attended the service if it were here. We didn't know who his friends were where he had lived previously to let them know. His body had to be transported back there. It was probably the saddest funeral I've ever been to. Other than my immediate family, 4 of us, there was one other person attending. We were able to cut back the amount of viewing days and did so. He had paid for a choir and organ music at the funeral service but there was only the four of us and the funeral director and helpers which made it even sadder. The experience soured my thoughts on pre-arrangements since we never know what changes a few years might bring. Where he was living was where he had retired to. There were no other family members who lived or had any connection to the area there that might want to visit their graves. No one has visited them since his funeral and probably no one ever will.
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