If you know someone in the conference and you're actually good, they will generally put your name out there to get looked at, but if you're not good or if you're trouble to deal with they may tell you that they will put your name out there and never will. It doesn't matter how good you are if you bring a bad attitude. Not saying that is you, but just putting that out there. If you don't know someone, then you have to find a way on a team that plays consistently against upper level teams and network and get seen by them to get picked up to play with even higher level teams. Most people don't break the surface of ever playing in the conference and it takes 5-10 years of development for a lot of players to either get seen or get good enough to get there.
The live streams and condensed games makes the game look a lot slower/easier than it truly is at the conference level. Line drives at the pitcher look slow on the feed, when they're actually shit on. Same for balls hit everywhere else. The strikezone in the conference is also smaller than lower tournaments, so walks happen more often. You're also not throwing cookies to the best hitters in the country. Sometimes a walk on a borderline pitch is better than a double or homer on a cookie. It's a different game than most people play locally. Hitting 600 in the conference, especially with how bad the balls were this past year, is a solid year.
For some people and their situations, it just might not be meant to be if all those factors you laid out come into play.