Etiquette Question - Meet the band
Posted by Director and Parent on 11/1/2021, 1:13 pm
I was on duty as just a parent in the concession stand for my son's high school instead of as a band director. Imagine my surprise when a constable came in and relayed his disapproving shock at an occurence with the visiting team's band, so I thought I'd see what the trends are these days because COVID changed a lot of things. |
It was senior night so seniors went over to greet the other team. They were met by a "Karen" (Constable's words) who intercepted the kids, told them "Oh, we're not doing that", and took their gift basket.
My brain just won't leave it alone.
What we were left with was an impression given by a rude parent who cut off what is traditionally a gesture of good will, took a gift, and delivered nothing in the way of reciprocity. And did all this in a manner that sent a Constable over to the parents in the concession stand.
From my vantage point as a director and as the parent of a child in our Title I district, I was stunned. This is not what we teach our kids. I feel sportsmanship, compassion, and building bridges is some of the most important things we do after teaching them to play. Music is supposed to connect us.
Is this the new normal? If you were that director, would you want to know how your parent chaperones were acting in your behalf? What is standard with your school?