Re: Kids Quitting- extremely discouraged
Posted by Exactly!! on 5/19/2021, 12:52 pm, in reply to "Re: Kids Quitting- extremely discouraged"
As a retiree who taught for 35 years, Percguy is 100% correct in my opinion. |
The only thing I'd add is for those who do leave, I recommend not showing any animosity, hostility, disappointment,pressure to stay or any other negative attitude towards them. When this would happen to me during my career, I simply smiled and wished them the best with what I'd describe as pleasant indifference and simply focused only on those who did stay.
I always let all my students know that I supported them all the way in band but that band is not necessarily for everyone, just like all other activities are not for everyone be it sports, drill team, art, theater arts, ag, whatever other activities that were available to them.
I also always let them know that if they ever felt that band was not for them that I'd understand and wouldn't pressure them to stay and would allow them to leave if they wanted to. This idea may sound counter to what we feel as it's difficult to not take it personally, but it served me very well during my career and I was glad to have quality AND good attitudes in my programs.
Just because someone is really good at something doesn't mean they should be doing that. i.e. - I'm really good at crunching numbers and doing things like income tax forms, but I sure wouldn't want to do that on a regular basis. Students are no different with their talents and what they enjoy doing.
Remember that even the best musician can do a lot of damage to a band program if they are the source of a lot of negativity and bad attitudes in a program no matter how well they play. If they lead, someone or "someones" will likely follow for better or worse.
Quality over quantity does work in a band program and it doesn't always have to have the best musicians.
Just my 2Ę worth based on my past experiences.