Re: Best advice for dealing with discipline issues?
Posted by Former yeller on 12/11/2019, 4:08 pm, in reply to "Best advice for dealing with discipline issues?"
My discipline has definitely changed over the years. My first year, I got worked up all the time, yelled frequently, and got super frustrated. |
Now, nine years in...
I absolutely know, without a shadow of a doubt, that I will have between one and four stinkers in class.
First offenses garner mean teacher looks, stopping the band and staring at them in dead silence, and if it's super bad, it's followed by an extremely quiet "Johnny, put your horn away and stand next to my office." Then continue on as if absolutely nothing happened.
I have learned that class clowns usually stop if you remove them from their friends. It's less fun when they have to stand by themselves till the end of class. I may be a bit old school, and might get in trouble one year, but usually it just takes one time of standing in the back to make them not want to do it again. It also serves as a deterrent for others.
This year has been particularly trying with one of my sections. I started emailing parents, then resorted to phone calls every. single. day. If they picked up, I told them what happened, and if it was a message, it was something like, "Hello Ms. Smith, this is Johnny's band teacher. Johnny had some trouble staying focused in class today. He was _____________ during class and it was distracting for the other kids and hard for me to teach. He has a lot of potential on the trombone and I was hoping you guys could talk to him and try to help him find some strategies to focus better in class. I really appreciate your help."
Parents are usually on your side if you come from the view of "your kid really has potential, he's just not focused." It's not as accusatory and works well over email, too. Parents can be super touchy, but all parents want their kid to be successful and it's not unreasonable for a teacher to ask for a student to be "focused."
Best of luck! It gets easier. Remember, middle schoolers (and high schoolers) are absolutely not worth you losing your temper over. Go in with the mindset of expecting silliness and how you'll deal with it, and you'll be fine.