Language is important. At my school, Iím the associate director. I assist with everything but it is OUR program. OUR bands. The head director happily gives me credit when credit is due and values me and my contributions. We both have over 20 years teaching experience. I would not work for someone who who is phrasing things the way you are. Big red flag. I want to be apart of a TEAM. Yes there is a leader, but I want a leader who serves.