August, September, October, and most of November were going and coming in the dark. After football season ended around Thanksgiving then it was time for Region auditions and region band, (there goes December). With Thursday football and Saturday contests that's a lot of time. I can remember having basically one Saturday from August through January that wasn't work one year. And if you are active at all with Winter seasons, (guard or drumline), then you have mini-marching season 2 in the spring.
Plus you throw in Solo and Ensemble, more region concerts, TMEA, Pre-UIL's and recruiting events and it's much, MUCH more than 10 weekends in the fall. And don't forget those fun monthly booster meetings.
It isn't just whining. Yes, it's the job I signed up for and then realized I shouldn't have. That doesn't invalidate the concerns or the thoughtful approach of the OP to look for other options.