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Posted by Percguy on 8/13/2021, 11:27 am, in reply to "Quit
I really struggled with this for many years, and having taught in small schools for several years, I know exactly how devastating it can be for even a single kid to quit. May-August were always the worst months of the year, because it was when I got the news about all of the kids quitting band. It was very hard to not take it personally, and I used it as a measure of my worth and success as a band director. Over the last year and a half of dealing with COVID, I finally came to a place of focusing on teaching the kids who are in front of me. They are the ones who want to be here and are making the commitment to stick it out. Instead of wasting all of my emotional energy on the kids who are leaving, I try to save that for the kids who are staying so that they get my best.
Now, it's still tough for me, and this summer I've wanted to fall back into old habits because things are "normal" again. But being able to let go of the illusion that I can control the decisions kids make and that it must be my fault somehow if they choose "wrong" has made me a happier person, and I feel like my best kids are getting my best instead of my frustration and leftovers. Hang in there, work to let go of what you can't control, and teach the kids who are in front of you!