I recognize we are each guilty from time to time of assuming the world sees things through the same lens we do. In this case, your perspective is your own.
They may look bad to you - just as you assume you look bad to them. In my case, I am too concerned about what’s happening in my world to notice whether or not you are going to a game or not. That’s not meant to seem disrespectful, it’s just a fact. There is a lot to manage for those of us proceeding with marching and that is the course we have chosen - or in some cases has been chosen for us.
We each have our own house to tend to. I know you’re doing the best you can with yours. So many are trying to make sure children come first, every day. It just could what that is ... looks different to each of us.