Itís his program, if things donít go well, the blame falls squarely on his shoulders.
Offer to be a sounding board, if he doesnít want to take you up on it, donít take it personally.
Here is a different take on HD and assistant relationships.......
I am a 20+ year veteran head middle school director. It has been years since I have had direct and close work with my cluster lead, i.e. head high school director. This past year, I've found myself in a new situation at a small school, small program where I am now in direct contact and work closely with the high school HD. Not unique or necessarily new to me, it has been 10+ years since I've taught in this environment.
Last fall, we took over a fairly successful program together. Needless to say, things did not go well. Having plenty of experience, I would be proactive while helping instruct marching band. During rehearsals, I would routinely be berated and yelled at in front of the kids. There were also many times that I, as the assistant, would be there first to open, AND be the last to leave and lock up. I would also take care of most of the sectionals and deal with student issues directly. I've found it hard to consistently support this kind of behavior in my HD.
Anyway, please don't think I'm disgruntled or unhappy, but I'm finding it difficult to not always be "in the loop" when decisions about the program are being made, even though I feel like I'm doing most the work. The HD is young and is in the first year of being a high school HD. I can already see things begin to go awry. Which is sad, because there is so much potential with the program and this director. Without really being consulted about program decisions and even pedagogy, I'm starting to get really concerned. With the recent shutdown, it's gotten worse. There is little to no planning for next year (whether we will be back or not). No planning for a show, no planning for retention, no plan for recruitment. Even in times of uncertainty, there needs to be contingencies.
Thoughts for the weary?