I will post this in my office next to my desk first thing Monday morning.
That so much, I needed to hear this.
....never let anyone steal your joy......ever
Lots of great advice on this thread. I was worried when you posted with the amount of shade that might be thrown your way. Very proud of my colleagues with their responses.
keep your head up and moving forward. Everyone wants to be liked. The trick is, to be liked by the right people. I'm talking about your family, trusted friends, God, and most importantly, yourself. I always told my students, "I ain't trying to win Prom King, I'm trying to make better musicians and better people". If you can go home every day with a clear conscience that you gave your best that day with integrity, character, good modeling, and maturity, then you have succeeded. Those are attributes that no one can take away from you......you can only GIVE them away.
Keep your head up. Maintain your self-awareness, but don't let it be the reason(excuse) you don't continue to grow as a person. Good job for reaching out.
Ok, so I am a very sensitive person. Some would probably call me a snowflake. Part of this personality means that I care way too much about what people think - including students.
For any other golden retriever types that just want to be liked, how do you keep those few problem students from getting to you?
I deal with around 350 awesome students every day, and maybe 3 or 4 that are mean and disrespectful to me.
I know I need a mindset change of some kind, just don't know how to accomplish that - this is really more of a therapy question than a band director question, but I know some of you have wisdom!