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Re: Not letting them get to you
The biggest thing to do (easier said than done) is to just do you. If you spend your time trying to be something that you think someone else wants you to be, then you will never be yourself. I have learned that there will never be a time where everyone you see will like you, or like the things that you are doing. That's just a simple fact of life. The sooner that you can accept that, the better off you will be. DO NOT give any extra time or attention to those students that are disrespectful to you. Redirect behavior quickly, and move on quickly. I have found that most of the time those students are looking to get a rise from the teacher, and will stop acting that way when not given that opportunity. Have fun with what you do, and focus on the good things that are going on!!
Ok, so I am a very sensitive person. Some would probably call me a snowflake. Part of this personality means that I care way too much about what people think - including students.
For any other golden retriever types that just want to be liked, how do you keep those few problem students from getting to you?
I deal with around 350 awesome students every day, and maybe 3 or 4 that are mean and disrespectful to me.
I know I need a mindset change of some kind, just don't know how to accomplish that - this is really more of a therapy question than a band director question, but I know some of you have wisdom!