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Re: Kids and manners
1. You *are* aware that ELLs tend to use broken English or incomplete/not 100% correct translation, right? Have you taken your ESL training this year? Calling a teacher "miss" or "mister" is an honest attempt to address them properly.
2. Or, more accurately, it's most likely a cultural difference. In some cultures, addressing someone specifically by name is quite aggressive. Heck, in some cultures, looking someone "superior" to you in the eyes in a form of challenge. Again, tolerance and multicultural knowledge is important.
3. You've never, once, ever, kept doing something that someone told you to stop doing. You've never kept talking in a faculty meeting when they asked for quiet or attention. You've also never been in a country that didn't speak English, and kept talking when someone said/shouted something at you in another language that you didn't understand. Well, maybe that last one.
Sure thing. They're "bad for education."
1. Mr. or Miss is English, not Spanish.
2. When you are a student and are asked to refer to the teacher by his or her name and you deliberately and willfully do the opposite it is rude and shows a lack of proper upbringing.
3. If you think that disrespect towards a teacher is okay and that you would "happily" do it, you are part of what is wrong with education in our society and I hope that you leave the profession soon. We have enough problems in our society and in our schools without attitudes like yours.
Or just refusal to acknowledge the culture of the school. I equate that to telling a kid to stop speaking Spanish just because you don't understand it. In this case, even as a kid, I would happily push that button over someone being willfully ignorant.
Often, if it bothers a teacher, students will continue it just to "push a button."
Then in this case it is indeed, poor manners.
Someone hit on the answer briefly, but I can give you more detail. In Spanish, calling someone "Senor" or "Senora" without a last name is acceptable and even preferred. (Yes, I know they need a tilde on the n's--I can't make that happen on this platform). When I began teaching in the mid-70s, teachers were angry when a student called them "Mr." or "Miss." At the time, the district had about 40% Hispanics. However, the reason was obvious--it's a simple matter of translation.
So why "Miss"? I think it's probably simply easier to say. If you'll notice, very few people actually say "Mrs.," even if it's with the last name--we've taken the 2 syllable word and turned it into "Ms." This may or may not be connected to the Women's Lib movement of the 60s.
Your non-Hispanic students have simply picked up the habit from their friends. Often, if it bothers a teacher, students will continue it just to "push a button."
Interestingly, by the end of my public school career, the tendency for students to use "Miss" had lessened considerably, this in a district that is about 85% Hispanic.
It's a complicated issue that generally just requires a bit of explanation to someone who doesn't understand.