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Posted by Colgan Bryan
on 11/2/2007, 4:23 am, in reply to "Re: Dr. and Mrs. George J. Bryan died 1999 in California"
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Wow. There you have it CBHS alumni. If you came to these boards for happy memories of a great town then this string is way out of context.
So far I seem to have progressed from non existence, to not really belonging here, to having terrible actions from someone who didn't even know that she has more nieces and a nephew. I guess they are too "petty" for her.
If any of you have ever had to deal with the mental illness of a sibling the way that I have, then you understand that it can be a challenge at times and you might appreciate my embarrassment. She seems to have found another place to "put on her show" Of course she knows that I love Cocoa Beach so it is a great weapon. She only lived there 11 years and she loved needling me by calling it a "nothing hick town."
When I first saw this string I thought that my sister was responding to someone's inquiry and I thought that it was kind that someone asked. Now I see that I walked into another one of her "cries for help." Just like old times;-) I do have the same initials as Charlie Brown so maybe that's why I keep falling for the same traps;-)
Those of you who remember Alice, then you probably noticed that she was always "telling stories" and having feuds with neighbors and friends. Well I am sure you are noticing that she hasn't grown out of that.
In regards to our parents they were amazing and I am very lucky to be their son and I was glad that I could express that to them before they passed away. Now she can attempt to speak for them all that she wants but I am much happier knowing the truth than she ever could be embracing her delusions.
Many people our age have had to say goodbye to their parents too and I am sure I am not the only one who has ever had to deal with the greed of a sibling. If you have had similar experiences then I hope you find amusement in this string.
I am sure our parents aren't the only parents that didn't want pettiness to be left in their wake but it is difficult to avoid when it is forced on you. Those of you who haven't had this indignity thrust on them I would say that I envy you except I just see my sister's "issues" as the price of being in a family that I am happy to have. In the big picture, it's nothing.
In spite of what Alice thought, our parents really did love her. She didn't have to try to steal their love, she already had it. They loved the sinner but hated the sin but they always felt they had to apologize for her and they were always asking me to forgive her. "She's sick and she has always been jealous of you" they always said. I kept trying to tell them it wasn't worth the worry and that there wasn't anything that a sense of humor couldn't take care of. I still believe that and Alice still hates that.
They had always hoped that after over a quarter of a century as a minister's wife Alice would eventually learn some fundamentals of not baring false witness, idolatry, and how hatred can eat up her soul. But they resigned themselves that
"if her own husband who has to live with her, cannot get her the help she needs, then we can't keep letting it be our problem."
As for my mother's deathbed, we all just remember my sister's melodramatic tantrum and attacking my 2 month old and 2 year old daughters and pushing their strollers into the hallway. It might have looked like she was having a meltdown but I know that it was just another performance.
She did manage to clean out mom's house of valuables and pictures, changed her will while she was in a coma, scheduled a memorial in secret from me (so my family had to "crash" their memorial), spent mom's money for her own personal use and I believe she is still hiding mom's ashes.
I don't really know what she got out of all of that but I hope it was worth it considering how much she had to throw away to grab it.
My actions? All I did was try to ignore her and that is something she hates more than anything.
Apologies? I don't remember asking for one and I wish I cared enough to want one. I came out way ahead because I didn't throw away my dignity. (Of course, I could have done without her stealing my mail though and of course, her constant attempts to slander me and libel me get really old too. Oh well)
Am I the only one confused about the "jealousy of her name part?" Her name is Alice P Biery but she keeps trying to call herself "Bryan" when it isn't really her name? Both of our parents HATED the way she was trying to call herself Bryan. They hated trying to explain it when they didn't even understand it. Hee hee
Mom always said that if you spend too much time trying to figure Alice out, you will be as crazy as Alice is. Mom really knew how to scare me. I prefer to listen to mom's advice.
I just know that my family is the true Bryan family and Alice will have to just get over it and stop trying to be a Bryan wannabe.
I just wish dad would have known that the family name will now continue with my son Anthony Bryan. They adored ALL of their grandkids and I wish that they all could have known each other better. There was too little time even without my sister's divisive actions.
Personally, I love and miss my niece and nephew and it was difficult to watch her lie to them just to manipulate them to dislike me. I hope my niece is a happy newlywed and that my nephew is able to forgive his mother someday.
As for Alice; if the real reason she has obsessed with this "rage" against me (that's what my mom called it) is because she thinks that I am the one that told my parents Alice was pretending to have multiple sclerosis for attention; then she has it backwards. My parents told me after they called Alice's doctor. The doctor's concluded there were no physical reasons for her "symptoms" and recommended specialists. Apparently, they were all psychiatrists and psychologists and my parents often regretted that they were too embarrassed to pursue that treatment.
For those of you who are just reading this cathartic journey out of curiosity, I hope this soap opera is somewhat entertaining. If you find it repulsive, I cannot disagree and I envy your freedom to just walk on past this display.
Alice may feel that my life is "petty" and she has a right to be wrong:-) but I am the luckiest guy in the world with wonderful kids and a career doing what I love doing. If this is "petty" then I highly recommend it!
Now if Alice actually spent a little time actually reading the Bible instead of just using it as a prop to make her look more credible, maybe she would learn something like hate=bad, lying=bad, stealing=bad. More importantly, she might actually find happiness.
BTW If you meet Alice in person, do yourself a favor if I am mentioned. I have given this advice to all relatives that she has bored with this conflict. Just tell her, "Yes he is the anti-Christ and he must be stopped at all costs" and you should do alright. But you might end up wishing you could get back the next few hours that you will waste listening to her "show." Do yourself a favor; don't tell her I'm happy or how beautiful my kids are unless you are at a safe distance;-)
Good luck
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