You no longer see those annoying pop-up ads because our sponsor, Doore, pays to keep this board free of Boardhost pop-ups. To show your appreciation, please click on the banner below and at least consider if you need what he has to offer.
Late Bloomer Smokers
Posted by CS on 10/29/2009, 15:03:44, in reply to "CS/MORE COMMENTS"
71.235.229.246
I came here seeking answers to questions no one would answer.
I apoligize if I misunderstood your post about your friend. Thank you for clearing that up.
Regarding weakness/weakminded, if you read the other new post I just put up, you'll see how I agreed with Crolma that a better way of stating it would be " a lack of discipline and self control"
Yes I agree there are MANY tales of the 100 year old who smoked since he was 2, but that is NOT the NORM. A little girl who couldn't be more than 4 years old was at the clinic because she too has cancer, she was frightened...she came over to me and asked if she could rub my bald head so she would know what it would feel like for her. Her mothers eyes were pleading with me to be gentle and soft...I looked at her, smiled and leaned over so she could put her hand on my head (I'm over 6' and 230 lbs AFTER radiation) She rubbed my head, said it felt soft, giggled and turn and ran back to her mother with a smile on her face. The mother was crying and held her child tight. The little girl asked her mother why she was crying.....
Regarding men who see cigarettes as a phallic symbol in the hands of a woman. Aaaaahhhhh how LAME! To think of a cigarette in the lips of a woman as your phallus? Maybe those men need some serious counseling. Maybe the think women who smoke are "easy or loose". A previous poster elluded to that recalling his childhood concepts of women smokers.
I understand your job to YOU is stressful. However knowing what I KNOW, having been where I've been, having done what I've done.... a paycheck where no one is shooting at you is an easy one. I'm not trying to diminish your job. I'm trying to place a perspective.
As I have stated before. I don't dislike smokers....I HATE their ADDICTION.
You never touch upon the subject of: if your husband walked in the door and said "Honey, I'm addicted to legalized prostitution in Nevada and you'll just have to get used to it".
That is a summation of arguements from posters here that their spouse should just get "used to/accept" their decision to become a smoker. Think about my statement above. Legal prostitution...and he brings it home and goes about it in front of you. Its HIS addiction and you'll just have to ACCEPT his choice in life. That is the same arguement some of the women here have made to their husbands. HOW is that compromise to your spouse? How does a spouse accept you are now TELLING him what he MUST accept?
I say a marriage is a TEAM effort. Just because you got addicted to a LEGAL substance does NOT MEAN they have to SUFFER from your decision! That is selfish! That is imoral. That is.....cheap.
Smoking as a thought process. You're driving, and smoking and you're thinking....which means you're NOT paying attention to the road. And for the most part it doesn't happen, but how many lives are you risking by engaging in that? Again, how selfish of you! How many times do you read some family was wiped out by a driver trying to light her cigarette, change radio stations, make a phone call. When you drive, you're supposed to be thinking about your driving! Hell, thats drivers ed 101.
I'm not bashing you, I appreciate your openness and forthrightness, I'm merely stating the "other side" of the equation.
I truly appreciate your time and effort in helping me to understand and allowing me this discourse.
I'm not dead yet. Only the Strongest Will Survive!
Message Thread:
« Back to thread
This board's 100,000th hit came on 6/19/2001.