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Late Bloomer Smokers
Posted by Cancer Survivor
on 10/27/2009, 17:29:36
71.235.229.246
I'm a non-smoker...diagnosed with cancer (very rare type) and have gone through HELL of radiation and treatment. Fast forward to a checkup... I was told by my friend (MD)not to look at anyone when I came out of the exam room because these patients had most of their faces and necks cut off from different forms of cancer. When I opened the door, my jaw dropped at what I witnessed. I am a professional "Operator" and someone who sees some gross stuff. Of everything I've seen in my life that was the most disgusting sight ever! It was as if someone threw a wrench into my brain.
Six months ago a friend (female) contacted me because her life went south.....very south in all ways including emotional and financial. When she heard about what has happened to me she wanted to come see me. I gave her a kiss (friendly, no sexual tension here) and tasted her Ugly Secret. On subsequent telephone conversations I could hear her exhaling and asked her when she started smoking and the litany of "don't judge me" started.
She's sounds like an addict, she acts like an addict, she smells like an addict and I can't take it. When I tell her about the people I saw smoking through their stomas, she denies it will happen. When I tell her about the woman exhaling smoke from the bandage where most of her throat was, she argues with me. I CARE about my friend and already you can see the effects the addiction to nicotine has had. I'm a big, muscular man and already her voice has dropped lower than mine. I LOVE my friend but her addiction to nicotine has driven a wedge between us. I won't accept her slow suicide mission. I've heard all the BS about Risk Assessment/Risk Management smokers try to espouse, and in MY profession where killing is my job, we truly access risk.......but heres the thing, I don't HURT my body permenantly everytime I go to work. I don't know what to do.....we've come to the point where we don't talk anymore.....and I hate the fact that the addiction you all here love, can take over the mind of what once was a normal, logical woman. Now her first and ONLY love is Nicotine.
I've read how you've all come out of the closet and "expect" your spouse to "accept" your decision. I think she began smoking because the man she was going to marry smoked......and got her addicted. I would LOVE to put a 168gr HPBT through his head but that won't stop her addiction...shes no longer with him....and has this STUPID addiction and the damage its doing to her body to remember him by.....Lord knows I don't want to accept her addiction.....and I don't want to loose my friend to it.
WHY on God's green earth are you trying to make it sound NORMAL to injest what kills people......and I want a logical answer.....not just emotional. Thanks for letting this Cancer Survivor, Cigarette HATER vent some serious emotions. I truly want to know WHY....
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