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Re: Wife & smoking...




Posted by Gooddoctor on 10/15/2009, 11:24:48, in reply to "Wife & smoking..."
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Is she inhaling? --Previous Message-- : I've had a number of : interesting developments : with regards to my wife : & smoking. : Essentially, it all : started when we had a : frank, open conversation : after watching a show on : TV about smoking. This : was about two months : ago. : : She had never expressed : positive views about : smoking in front of me : before. : : She joked that watching : that show "made me : want a cigarette". : Of course, hearing that : got me *very* : intrigued... now I : should probably give you : a bit of background. : : I've always come across : as anti-smoking in the : past, and I do : acknowledge some of the : problems smoking can : cause. However, my wife : assumed when we first : met that I didn't want : to date a smoker. She : did not smoke regularly : but occasionally enjoyed : a cigarette at a party : (not inhaling), or : enjoyed smoking a clove : (not inhaling). : : As the night progressed, : we talked about other : things, and eventually I : asked her if she : actually did want to : smoke a cigarette that : very night. She laughed : and said she was just : joking and wondered why : I asked such a thing. I : said I was simply : curious, as I'd never : imagined her smoking : before (which is not : true -- I'd imagined it : plenty of times -- I'd : just never imagined it : actually could happen!) : : I learned her favourite : brand is Djarum Blacks; : she also occasionally : smoked Newports but : didn't really like them, : and prefers smoking : cloves. She also liked : Djarum Cherry. : : We went to a 24-hour : 7-Eleven. She assumed : all they would have were : normal cigarettes, and I : was pretty excited about : the idea of her buying : some. She went to the : counter herself and : asked "do you have : Djarums?" and ended : up with a pack of Djarum : specials. She hadn't : tried these before, but : figured, why not? : : I was surprised by : myself, in that while I : was hoping she'd end up : with a pack of regular : cigarettes, I was even : happier that she'd : gotten the brand she : wanted and would be more : likely to enjoy. : : We went to a 24-hour : coffee shop, ordered : chai lattes, and then : sat outside. I watched : her light up with : matches, since she : didn't have a lighter! : : I'd never really : imagined her smoking : cloves, but found it : actually intriguing to : watch. One thing I : really enjoyed was that : she said she really : liked the taste of the : cloves -- very rich yet : smooth, very tasty. She : took what looked like : pretty enjoyable puffs, : exhaling quickly, since : she chooses not to : inhale cloves. : : She said she didn't care : about smoking and could : "take it or leave : it"; she assumed I : didn't want her to : smoke. I told her she : could do whatever she : wanted to and it's fine : with me if she smokes on : any occasion she wants : to. She said she'd : probably smoke once or : twice a month, when she : feels like it. : : Since then her pack of : 20 is down to 15. While : she enjoys the specials, : she's said she likes : Djarum Blacks better, so : I'll be trying to pick : up some of those (if I : can still find them : anywhere). : : When she smoked the 2nd : cigarette a few weeks : later, I noticed a few : minutes after she'd : finished it that she had : another cigarette in her : hand. I asked her why, : and she just said, : "I just feel like : enjoying smoking another : one." I briefly : thought that a longer : cigarette might be right : for her! : : She pretty much figured : out by the time she'd : finished the 4th : cigarette that I like : watching her smoke, but : she didn't say anything. : Most recently, I asked : her to smoke before the : night before she needed : to go on a trip. : : She asked me, "Do : you like watching me : smoke?" and I said : "Yes." She : told me she thought I : did, and would be happy : to smoke for me. While : she smoked, she asked : why I liked it and we : had an interesting : conversation about why I : enjoy watching her : smoke. : : We also had a very : positive experience when : a friend of ours at a : party invited us to go : to a hookah bar -- she'd : always wanted to try it : but never had. In the : past, she would have : never thought I would : want her to do such a : thing, but she asked me : if we could go and I : said "Sure." : : While I didn't enjoy : watching her smoke a : hookah as much as I do : cigarettes, I did enjoy : seeing how much she : enjoyed the smoke -- she : said the flavour was : excellent and the smoke : was very cool and : smooth. She also : inhaled! She said it's : the only way to really : get the full taste of : the hookah smoke. After : about a one-hour hookah : session, we went home; I : asked her how she felt : and she said smoking the : hookah was incredibly : relaxing and she'd like : to do it again sometime. : : Once again, I found that : what I liked the most : was the thought of her : really enjoying using a : tobacco product, both : for the taste of the : flavoured tobacco and : also for the relaxing : effect on her of : inhaling the smoke. : (Catching a whiff of her : hookah exhales doesn't : smell bad at all, : either!) : : At this point, I'd like : ideas on what to do : next; please see my : related post about : suggested brands. (I do : know I need to make sure : I buy or she buys a box : of Djarum Blacks as soon : as possible -- across : the border, if we have : to!) : : If anyone would like to : chat, look me up on : Yahoo as campania100. I : would especially enjoy : hearing from other : husbands whose : wives/girlfriends smoke, : but just for them. My : wife is someone who : doesn't seem interested : in smoking regularly, : but just likes to do it : every now and then, and : mostly because she knows : I enjoy watching her do : it. : : Thanks for reading! : - Mr. Campania :

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