So sorry to hear your news. I was also recently diagnosed with mets (bones and liver) after 12 years remission. This has been a much bigger blow than the initial bc diagnosis, so I know exactly how you are feeling.
My treatment is now underway (infusion of bone strenthening drug tomorrow; radiation for pain relief, chemo starting towards the end of the month).
I have taken much comfort from the other mets ladies on this board, especially Peg who seems to know what she's talking about.
Hang in there, Deb, I'm with you all the way.