Oh Lori, I so know what you are going through! I had my expander swapped out and augmentation to my left boob Dec 21, 2012. I saw my PS last Thursday and told him I felt uneven and he said he thought I looked great from his stand point and from where I had started (it's been a long 3 years, with a failed Diep, septis, a dorsy flap w/ expander surgery where the expander folded over on itself and had to be removed) then another expander put in last June. Anyway, I have been upset all week and finally last night I had the hubby take pictures from above both with a padded bra and birthday suit and sent them to the PS today to show him MY perspective. I haven't heard from him yet, but will keep you informed of what he says. I told him I just wanted to fit in a bra without having to pad one side.
And yes, YOU do really care what your breasts look like! I too boat during the summer and want to look decent in a swim suit.
Chin up girl, we will get through this! We have come this far.