Posted by anon on March 14, 2012, 1:39:34, in reply to "Re: Children in second hand smoke - part 2"
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Would really love to hear more about all of this. Any more experiences, or more details, and if you have gone back. Thank you
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: Hello again,
:
: well, I took the
: invitation of the
: smoking mother. She
: lives with her little
: child and her husband
: around 4km away from me.
: When I arrrived, I
: brought some chocolate
: cake with me and a
: little bear for the kid
: as a present. They live
: in a apartment at the
: top level of the house,
: round about 80 square
: metres. The kid has its
: own room. The interieur
: looks very stilish with
: a black leather couch in
: the living room and
: leather chairs in the
: dining room. As I
: entered the apartment
: there it was - the smell
: of heavy smoking people
: who seem to live hear.
: There where at least one
: big ashtray in every
: single room, the
: curtains were not that
: yellow but you could see
: that they lived and
: smoked here for quite a
: while. When I entered,
: the little kid came
: towards me, followd by
: her mother and father,
: each a cigarette in
: their hand. Ther mother
: just exhaled on me and
: doiwn on her daughter
: when they opened the
: door. Antje, the kid was
: very happy about the
: teddy bear,I brought
: her, her mother,Silke,
: and her father,Bernd
: were happy to see me. It
: turned out that Silke is
: 36 and Bernd is 40.
: Antje just had her 3rd
: birthday.
: As I already
: described,Silke is a
: very heavy Davidoff
: smoker,Bernd smokes only
: Gauleoises blue. She is
: about 3ppd,he is only
: about 2ppd.
: So,little Antje has to
: cope wioth the smoke of
: around 5ppd from her
: parents.
: When we drank coffee,
: Silke placed Antje in
: her baby seat next to
: the table and it could
: be seen that Antje would
: have rather played a bit
: instead of having to
: have cake with us.
: Anyway she was blaming,
: Silke sat her down,
: lighting a cigarette,
: took a deep drag and
: exhaled directly in
: Antjes face. She did it
: again and again until
: the kid calmed down a
: bit. She told me that
: Antje has to learn to
: behave and to sit calm
: with her parents on the
: table. She told me that
: she has the feeling that
: the smoke helps
: sometimes to calm her
: down. It really could be
: seen that the kid was
: calm now. We talked a
: little bit and they told
: me that they are both
: very happy that I am so
: tolerant concerning
: their heavy smoking
: about their kid because
: they just have some few
: friends who understand
: and support this. They
: told me as well that
: smoking is their life
: and that they will never
: try to cut down and that
: it is extremely
: important for them that
: their friends and
: especially their kids
: will never ever blame
: them for their smoking,.
: That is the other reason
: why they smoke steadily
: around them and also
: exhale regularly on
: them. After coffee and a
: lot of cigarettes they
: showed me their
: apartment and also
: Antjes little room. Even
: there was a huge ashtray
: with at least 20
: cigarette butts inside.
: For sure, it was placed
: in a height, where Antje
: could never reach it.
: They told me that they
: would for sure also
: smoke in her room, e.g.
: when they bring her to
: bed, changing her
: diapers ...
:
: I have to say that I
: never met such nice,
: heavy smoking people.
: Except for their very
: unconvenient kind of
: education they seem to
: be really loving
: parents. If Antje
: behaves, they are really
: lovely with her, they
: never cried very loud on
: her, they often take her
: on their lap (for
: sure,also smoking and
: exhaling on her), take
: her in their
: arms,kissing her and so
: on.
:
: I left after a few hours
: the very smoke clouded
: apartment and we
: fixed,that we want to
: stay in contact and meet
: again. I plan to visit
: them tomorrow in the
: evening for dinner.
:
: If I do not bore you too
: much, just ask for
: further details or
: whatever you like!
:
: Smoky regards
:
: Alex
:
:
:
:
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: Would LOVE to hear
: details!
:
: --Previous Message--
: Hello all,
:
: I am Alex from germany
: and I want to share my
: recent sightings with
: you:
:
: 1. I just was in a
: terrific traffic jam.
: Next to me there was an
: old mazda station wagon
: and a couple, around 30.
: He drove and light up a
: fresh cigarette. The
: girl was a blonde nice
: girl who was just finish
: with her cigarillo. Just
: after that she lit the
: next one of her MOODS (I
: saw it because I was
: right next tio them.
: In the back seat, there
: were two baby seats with
: one 3-4 year old girl
: with long hairs and a
: almost new born boy. For
: sure, because it was
: cold, the windows were
: all up and when the
: mother lit up again you
: could see that the
: little girl was coughing
: a few times while the
: boy was sleeping.
: In the front seats their
: parents were just
: giggling a bit and they
: both took very hard and
: deep drags of their
: cigarette / cigarillos.
: I would be interested
: how their home look
: like?
:
: 2. A few weeks ago I was
: walking in the park. Not
: much people in there.
: Suddenly I saw a woman
: in her late 30ties
: smoking in front of a
: baby stroller. I slowed
: down and saw that she
: took hard drags on her
: all white cigarette and
: blowing the smoke all
: the time into the
: toddlers face.It was a
: girl around 1-2 years
: old which was hopelessly
: strapped in her baby
: stroller no way to
: escape and who had just
: to breath in mummies
: smoke. Then I saw that
: the mother, by doing
: that was feeding the
: girl with some fruits.
: At all when I reached
: her the little girl did
: not look very happy but
: did not dare to cry.....
:
: Suddenly when her mother
: saw me she did not feel
: comfortable and excused
: herself. I said to her
: that I am totally ok
: with the situation. She
: wondered and told me
: that she normally takes
: care that nobody sees
: her doing that. We
: talked a bit while she
: was smoking and feeding
: again and she told me
: that she likes to blow
: smoke in her babies face
: because she has the
: feeling that the baby
: will calm down a bit and
: will behave better.
: Besides she wants to
: ensure that her girl
: will be a good passive
: smoking girl who will
: never blame her parents
: smoking around her. The
: mother smoked Davidoff
: around 60 a day. We
: discussed a bit more and
: at the end she invited
: me to a coffee with her
: and her husband the next
: day.
: If anybody is interested
: I can tell more or you
: can ask some questions
: about this.
: I just stop here because
: I do not want to get you
: boring with my stuff.
:
: Smoky regards
:
: Alex
:
:
:
:
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