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Posted by still struggling Yes,we have 2 kids. My youngest was only 3-4 mos. old when my H screwed up. We live in a SMALL town & I heard rumors for about 2 yrs before I finally got the truth. I made him go to his family & tell them what he did. Our friends pretty much knew because of the rumors. He had to go to the Dr & have himself checked out. Both OW are known to get around ALOT. He has said that when he was making these mistakes he knew it was wrong and he felt bad afterwards but after the 1st one he figured the damage was already done & doing it again could not make it that much worse. He said when everything came out in the open, it was hard for him to admit to it but it was also a relief. When I found out about the 2nd one, he confessed to the 1st. He said at that point was when he realized what he was losing. He also stated that it was really difficult for him to live with the guilt and the constant lies. He stated at one point he had thoughts of suicide. He has never come right out & said "get over it" but he has stated that he doesn't think I will ever get over it. It does not help that I have to see & hear about the 2 OW all the time. He says that everytime we try to have a discussion, I use this as my defense. I cannot make him understand just how much damage this has done to me. This has changed my whole outlook on our life. It has affected me more than I ever thought it would. I do want to get over this but I just have to find a way to do it. He feels like he has done stuff to help me over the last 2 yrs but we never really discussed this at all except for in the beginning. I am not sure what I need to really help me through it. I have forgiven him but I have not forgotten and I will never forgive the 2 OW. I cannot say I harbor as much hate for them now but I just cannot completely forgive. My H has suggested that I do talk with them & say what I have to say. I am not sure that this will be helpful, I feel like it will take us back to day 1. Thanks again for your help!
on 10/29/2004, 9:03 am, in reply to "Hi still struggling"
Hi Dano! Thanks for your response! This site has been a really big help for me for the last 2 yrs. I never posted but I did read daily. Right after D-day I thought I was losing my mind. Reading the posts here, I realized what I was feeling was normal.
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