[ Post a Response | Surviving Infidelity ]
Track anyone's Internet ACTIVITY; see the sites they visit.
Brokenheartsville, our new private community, is now open ... read all our books for free when you join!
Posted by Joy on 10/27/2004, 11:57 am, in reply to "RESPONSE" You will never completely forget, other than having part of your brain removed! But, it does fade into the past. When I would get one of those bad days, I would call it my 'dark place'. Your husband needs to be sensitive to your needs and problems with trust and this woman. Words are easy, but you really need for him to make those ratical moves to ensure he is earning back that trust! This one is up to him. Trust is so very damaged at this point. No wonder you feel insecure! You H has to do whatever it takes to protect your marriage and help rebuild the trust and security you need. Glad your feeling better. Hang on, as it is common that your moods will be all over the place , especially in this first year. For a low cost, $5, there is an ebook that you can download that is written for the wayward spouse and explains what they need to do to understand and help the betrayed spouse. It's an easy read. aftertheaffair.net Take care, Joy
Link: http://aftertheaffair.net
The "head stuff" is common. Most everyone has those horrible imagined images in our head! Especially in the beginning. I was compulsive!
A really hard time for me, felt like I was just lossing my mind! Your 'heart' wants to believe him, but your brain has all the questions and doubts. He will have to show himself and earn that real trust over time.
I did have feelings of just wishing I could disappear, end all of the trouble. Not really hurting myself, just wanting some escape, maybe just die in my sleep or run away. My son's were teenagers at the time. They still need me. That was just a fantasy. Here I am still almost 4 years later. I survived, you will to.
Message Thread:
« Back to thread
Track
anyone's Internet ACTIVITY; see the sites they visit.