[ Post a Response | Surviving Infidelity ]
Track anyone's Internet ACTIVITY; see the sites they visit.
Brokenheartsville, our new private community, is now open ... read all our books for free when you join!
Posted by Andrea I feel bad about telling him how I think about leaving- because I feel like I am supposed to be demonstrating that I'm in- not the wishy washiness that I sometimes feel. But I hear what you are saying - I may just print this exchange and have him read it, and then we can talk about it. I really appreciate your thought and ideas. THank you.
on 10/22/2004, 6:32 am, in reply to "doesn't compute"
Thanks Dano- you are so right- One thing my h is working on right now and has taken to IC is that he raly's on me to make him happy and that this is not a reciprocal experience. If I am down (even before the A's) he would come down with me instead of trying to lift my spirits. Both me and IC felt this was tremendous pressure and unfair to me- so he needs to work on getting in touch with his own feelings more and not relying on me to do this for him.
Soo- that was what happened on the phone the other night- I was crying and upset and he got snappy- because of guilt and instead of saying things to calm me and feel better- he can't cope with it. I hung up on him- you are right I do not need to put up with it. After a while I called him back and told him that his behaviour was unacceptable, making it worse and what I neede was to her comforting and good things and I need him to comfort me - not be annoyed with me. He agreed and apologized, and the conversation went better as have the last 2.
Message Thread:
« Back to thread
Track
anyone's Internet ACTIVITY; see the sites they visit.