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Posted by Momof2 When my H has to go away, it really upsets him. He says "I just want to be with you all the time lately" or "I don't want to leave", "I don't want to be away from you", it helps and I know he really means it. We do talk on the phone all the time, even if it's just when he's running through the parking lot at some airport. But it is comforting to know that he's having those feelings too. So I don't feel at all silly planning for his return. I may get a sitter and plan a nice quiet evening. If no sitter can come, I plan a nice dinner at home (maybe followed by a bubble bath!). All I'm saying is focus on the return, not the departure. Don't think of it as rewarding him either, think of it as rewarding yourself.
on 10/22/2004, 6:02 am, in reply to "Going crazy"
Andrea, as you and I have posted, we're both in the same boat so to speak. My H travels quite a bit for work too. It seems as if when he's home, everythings ok (as good as it can be given the circumstances) but when he's away I'm a bumbling, daydreaming, worrying, crying mess. I think it's all part of the process. I think that at some point the BT will come where I don't freak. That will be a glorious day! Just as it will be the day I wake up and my first thought isn't the drunken ONS. For now, all I can tell you is you're not alone. And you say your husband, like mine, is remorseful and doesn't want to be away at this time. Why not make some plans for when he returns? A nice dinner, a movie, something to take your mind off of his absence and focus on is return. I know it sounds silly but if he IS remorseful, he's living in his own self-imposed guilt HELL.
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