As a woman who had two spontaneous miscarriages I know the sad feeling of loss when a fetus dies. In my case I went into labor and passed them before that could happen. Even though, with my marriage failing (I desperately wanted out) and not the best time to bring more children into the world - there is a feeling of loss that never ends. My GYN at the time, not knowing I wanted a divorce, advised us not to try for more children because we both carried a lethal gene. Having a lot of problems with birth control pills of the day, I had my tubes tied. At that point I knew I would never want more children, even if I remarried. I have no idea if my son inherited the gene. But for his children to die in utero the woman would have to have that same gene. Of course he could have passed it on, if he carries it, to his perfectly healthy son.
I only knew one woman whose fetus died in advanced pregnancy. As I recall she was 6 or 7 months along. She was a co-worker at the Animal Hosp where I worked for years. She had to go in and have what could be called an abortion to remove it from her body. Induced labor. She was devastated.
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