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Posted by Annie on 2/20/2007, 2:48 pm
I feel like I was more of a nar without even realizing it. Not in a bragging sense here, but I was usually the one that was more aloof, did my own thing and had them stringing along. I wasn't mean about it I just wasn't sure at times if I wanted them around, but then I could not bring myself to break up with them either. The last two have been what got me. My ex before the guy I am with now is what threw me. He turned the tables, made me think, had me guessing...I was hooked. It was so unhealthy and terrible for me. I lost every ounce of self-esteem I had. He did a number on me. Fast forward years later and I am in the same boat. BUT I am wiser and as the days go on I am understanding more and more. I also want to point out that sometimes I try to put myself in his shoes. I think at times I would be aggravated too. The fact that I am more of a homebody, that I do not go out like I used to, that I do not party like he does etc. He probably gets annoyed that I am usually here if I am not working. Feels like he lost his space and that we see eachother ALL the time. BUT that does not give him the right to be mean, disrespectful, neglectful... The fact that he says I am on him once or twice a week pissed me off, because I know I keep quiet a lot. My ex said this too, that he always felt like he was on the witness stand with me and that I asked too many questions and was too analytical. I am trying to tone that down, I only do that because I get so scared of being hurt.
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