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Posted by Annie on 2/18/2007, 5:22 pm
Okay you guys-bare with me. I decided to go on a weekend trip with his family this weekend. I knew I should have listened to myself and stayed home. Anyway...my bf left early with his dad so I drove hours later with his mom. She is a really sweet lady, but there was something said on the way that just hurt. she brought up his ex girlfriend and my heart sank-I wanted to hop out of the car because I was so uncomfortable. This is the same girl that is married now with a kid. This is the same girl that my bf called me by her name on New Years. He still deals with her dad businesswise 5 years later. beside the point. So... his mother says how much she liked her, how nice and sweet she was, but that she was so needy and her son did not like this. She said that she was one of those girls that if you broke up with her she would become psycho. Then she backed it up again and said "but I really liked her" and I said well he talks about her enough that I feel like I know her and sometimes I feel like he still has feelings for her. To that she added-well...he really liked her. Then she said, but ya knwo I never really felt like she was his type. In my head I was thinking WHY THE F ARE YOU TALKING TO ME ABOUT THIS? Then she said I know he deals with her dad businesswise which I think is just creepy and I do not understand. I agreed. So on the way to this lovely weekend trip I was super upset, but of course could not tell her. That night I did not sleep until about 4 in the morning I just cried from the pit of my gut. My bf happened to roll over and open his eyes and told me to go to sleep. I told him I was upset and he said that it was no big deal, she didn't mean anything by it, she likes everyone, but he did think it was strange that she said that. Weekend continues I did not bring it up again and tried to have a good time. My bf was saying how glad he was that I was there etc. Then last night he gets in a mood, because he can only stand his preachy dad for so long. Mood becomes worse and he gets pissy for the remainder of the night. Today-same thing. We were suppose to hang out all day, he wanted to go said he felt cramped in the house, needed space and his dad was bugging him. So we left. On the drive home (which is 4 hours) he is quiet. I have learned NOT to ask "what's wrong?" but tried to make light conversation about anything. He said he was not in the mood to talk. So for 4 fricken hours we did not talk on the way home. I would rather have hot wax dripped on my forehead for hours on end then sit in a car with someone that is pouting about nothing and not want to talk-GROW UP!!! I KNOW I did not do anything and believe me I was boiling inside. We got back home and he went to a game for a couple of hours-thank god. He could not leave fast enough-I was fuming mad. He walked out and said well...see ya later. I didn't say a thing. Two can play that stupid game of not wanting to talk. Would you guys be hurt about his own mother bringing up his last girlfriend? Who does that by the way? And what is with his feel sorry for me, silent attitude? I am so pissed it is not even funny. I heard about how sweet, loving, nice, needy, psycho his ex was. Well which is it? Why do I feel like if I met her I would know her? Why do I feel like they are mourning her-this was YEARS ago when they broke up? Why do I feel like I am competing with a ghost? Why does she have such a hold when she sounds so messed up? They both said great things about her and awful things. Quit talking out both sides of your mouth. What is the deal? Sorry-been cooped up in a car for hours and needed to vent. Need help with this-feel like I am going to snap.
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