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Posted by Miss Realtor NYC on 2/16/2007, 3:33 pm, in reply to "Re: Miss Realtor NYC " I never really realized that my mother was a narcissist. I knew that she was all about appearances and still is. She made it impossible for me to have a relationship with my own and only brother. She kept us at each other's throats as children. Even now as adults, I am not invited to my brother's home at the holidays. I adore my nephews, yet I never get to see them. And all the while, my mother enjoys holidays "surrounded by family." I realized at 40 that the time had come to distance myself from her and to stop playing the good and dutiful daughter. I only speak to her when she calls me or on Mother's Day or her birthday. And believe me, I force myself to make those calls, for the woman was a horrible parent to a daughter. I see the same distance and coldness in my 39-year-old-brother, so I don't think that she was any more successful in raising him either. Luckily, my brother married a pretty good woman. So perhaps my nephews have a chance. I realize, though I have never been blessed with children up to this point, just how fragile they are. And how if you are not careful to be loving and supportive and nurturing you can affect them into adulthood. I always felt like a misfit in my home growing up. Sometimes, at the age of 41, I still feel like a misfit. Which is probably why I remained in a unfulfilling CP relationship for so long. Thank you so much for helping me to shed more light on my past, my present and my future.
Thank you Lou! 
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