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Posted by Sally on 2/15/2007, 6:19 pm, in reply to "Re: CP did it again on Valentine's Day!" I felt all of that. ALWAYS stressed wondering if we had plans or didn't, would he come, would he cancel, what was going to happen over the holidays, would he exclude me. Why did he NOT want to get together over the weekend ? Everything was vague and uncertain or last minute. I can't manage MY life that way. I need definite plans, timeframes. THAT was the stress part! The exhausting part was trying to somehow talk through this over and over but NEVER a conclusion, never a decision, just more vagueness and maybe's and " I don't know" No answers. The relationship MADE ME VERY ANXIOUS! And after a breakup, of course, I miss you, was thinking of you ...weeks later! And I believe he did! BUT didn't miss not seeing me for 3 weeks or more when we were 'together' ! HELLO! THAT is messed up! I really need my life to be somewhat organized and somewhat predictable. Everything was just random & chaotic. BUT that is the way he runs his life, and that is how he AVOIDS commitment,,,he is always juggling a million things around in disarray and disorganization. Getting together always FELL to the bottom of list for him as he had one disaster after another to fix, BECAUSE nothing was planned & organized. I am getting stressed all over again thinking back.. well you get the picture! You sound like you have your mind made up, and aren't looking back.. ! Good for you.
Miss NYC.. you brought up 'stress' GREAT POINT, you brought up being 'exhausted' GREAT POINT.
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