Posted by Lily on 10/26/2009, 12:11 pm, in reply to "recovery"
That is a hard question to answer. It would depend on the straying spouse being open and honest right up front so you get no new surprises later and also on them being supportive, willing to give up their privacy etc. For most, it is about a year before they even feel normal again but much longer before they feel safe. You will have difficult days such as the anniversary of when you found out and things like that, which can set you back. Someone likened it to a bouncing ball, the longer it bounces up and down, the shorter the distance inbetween the high and the low and one day the ball will stop bouncing and you will feel safe and loved again. But the key is the behaviour of the WS. If they refuse to understand the pain and anger, then the recovery will take much longer and will not be complete.
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