Posted by Joy on 5/23/2009, 9:57 am, in reply to "5 months later"
You sound pretty normal for 5 months out. Really!
Recovery takes time, and lots of it. The first year is the hardest, the second still full of struggles.
The bad thoughts and memories do fade and become more matter of fact. The mental images fade also and become much easier to suppress.
Discovery of a betrayal by the one you love is an emotional trauma. It happened, it's an unfortunate reality. You will think of it less and less, but from time to time, something will trigger a memory. But, the bad thoughts pass quickly and are not as intense. There will be scars, with or without your spouse.
Hopefully, you marriage is not the same. You both learned from this horrible time and have worked to now build protective boundaries for the future. Hopefully, the work you do to rebuild after this discovery has in someway helped you strengthen your relationship. Not because of the affair, but due to the intense effort you both have to put into recovery. You now what something better for both of you!
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