Posted by Lily on 3/2/2009, 11:00 am, in reply to "Re: How to get the images out of my head"
The same thing basically happened to me and friends told me I had no right to be angry since we had separated. Let me tell you, I was angry and they did not know what they were talking about. My side of the issue is that he was seeing her and sleeping with her in the home I owned, that our kids had found out and told him he owed it to me to tell me but he chose to continue and hide it from me so why should I not be angry?
The lack of honesty is what gets most marriages into this issue and the lack of honesty is what makes the BS angry. Your H had this OW already lined up, so he was not operating in good faith. He had her in your home within 5 days of the split up and you are expected to say that is OK? I don't see it that way and no one has the right to tell you that you cannot feel anger, pain or any other emotion that you may have. The therapist could have served you better by allowing you to have the anger while helping you work through it.
Right now he needs to accept that you are hurt, you are angry and he owes it to you to work on this problem. In my case, the bed she slept in had to go etc. Whatever it takes to get you comfortable in your own home, he needs to do.
