Posted by Lily on 2/20/2009, 10:35 am, in reply to "taking back a cheating ex"
Tina: He cheated and lied throughout your life together so what can he offer you that will make you believe things would be different now? Has he had therapy and have you been involved in that therapy? Did he show remorse about hurting you from the beginning or did he just not give a **** about what his actions did to you and your son?
Ask yourself some tough questions and listen to your own answers.
Unless he understands the damage he has done, feels you pain, feels your anger and starts living a life of true remorse over all of it, then he does not really get it and will be very likely to backslide again. I have been there, done than and I honestly believe that only when they have seen the reality of what life will be like if you divorce them, will they start to understand that this is not a play and that life is going to get really, really real. And some of them see that reality and still don't care. You must do what is best for you and your son in the long run and so the question is, would you both be better off with or without this man?
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