Posted by Allen on 2/8/2009, 7:46 pm, in reply to "Re: How to get the images out of my head"
A lot of things I've read say that once a cheater, always a cheater. I'm pretty sure that I know my wife well enough to know that this wasn't something she would have done if she didn't feel an incredible amount of stress and confusion in her life at the time. There was no feelings for the person, they didn't have an emotional affair, so even though it seems like it should have been easier to avoid, it wasn't, but didn't happen because she thought she wanted him in her life. Had this been something other than basically a 2-night-stand, I don't know how differently I would have felt about it. But also what helps (sort of) is that is was so long ago. We do have 3 young daughters, so that's another very important reason to try and make this work. She has been very loving and understanding since telling me, and I've seen nothing in her actions in the last few years to give me any reason to doubt her. Back in the summer it happened, I strongly suspected, but she never confessed until only recently. I don't know if this has helped any or not, but if you're like me, you've done a lot of searching on the internet, which is how I came to find this website. A lot of it has been helpful.
