Posted by Lily on 1/23/2009, 11:19 am, in reply to "Going Crazy!"
My marriage has survived multiple affairs by my H. The pain was awful and it has changed the person I am. It is difficult to regain the ability to fully trust but you can, if both of you are committed to the marriage, find a new life together.
Your H will need to be totally open with you. All questions must be answered by him, even if he knows the answer will cause pain or anger. He does have issues with himself, you are right there, and he needs to get therapy to find out what allowed him to behave that way. You also need a good therapist to help you recover and also to make any changes in yourself that are needed. Do not allow yourself to feel you caused his actions but that is not true. He may have decided that you were not the woman he desired but that does not make it your fault.
You have children so give this a chance and see what happens. You can always divorce later if things don't improve so there is no reason to rush to an attorney.
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