Posted by Lily on 11/30/2008, 10:56 am, in reply to "Re: re: RAGE"
I understand your need to feel like you somehow can get back at the OW but believe you will just be wasting your time. Someone who has an A with a married person has no honesty, no shame and no morals. They will justify their actions to the last breath...they were in love, the SP was a nut case etc. Send her an email if you think it will make you feel better, but don't expect much from it.
As for your H being angry if you should email the other OW, too bad. He lost all rights when he had the A and he needs to get that into his head. If he justifies his anger as protecting you, explain to him that you would not be in this position if he had not put you there so he stopped protecting you when he chose her. It is the same as lying so you would not know about the A, then claiming he lied so you would not be hurt. If he did not want you hurt then he should not have had the A. Most of the WS have a hard time not finding some justification for their behavior and only when they stop that and fully own what they have caused, then the true repair work will start.
Message Thread:
« Back to thread