Posted by Lily on 11/26/2008, 11:47 am, in reply to "Re: re: RAGE"
Your H needs therapy help as much as you do. It is not unusual for the WS to think that once they have confessed and said they are sorry, that the BS should be over it soon. It simply will not work that way. You asked about rage. I screamed, I hit him as hard as I could, I went in our walk in closet and shut myself in and screamed and sobbed. I also had a heavy amount of rage at the OW but then I realized how pathetic her life is and how afraid she was about what I might do to humiliate her in public and I stopped most of my anger that had been directed at her.
I did call the OW. She was someone we had known for years and, because she called our home one evening and my H was extremely nasty to her, I somehow felt sorry for her and so called her the next day. It gained me nothing since she told me they would love each other until the day they died and he only stayed with me because I had begged him to and he felt guilty. Of course I did let her know how crazy her take on it was since I had filed for divorce immediately and he begged me to stay with him, but I doubt she believed anything but her own fantasy.
I did make it clear to my husband that he needed to tell me all, where they went, who saw then together etc. because, if I found out some new detail from someone else months later, he needed to know how I would take that and where he would be thrown to at that point.
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